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Apathy

Don't Leave God Alone: How to Get God's Attention, Remain in His Presence, and Even Change His Mind to Make a Difference in Your World

Apathy is the ninth-century? No. In the book’s treatment of spiritual obstacles, apathy is the choice to stop pursuing God when circumstances do not unfold as hoped. Its clearest illustration comes through Mary’s response to Lazarus’s death: while Martha goes out to meet Jesus, Mary remains in the house, and her withdrawal is interpreted as a dangerous surrender of expectation. The episode turns physical stillness into a spiritual image of abandoned pursuit.

The Lazarus Setting

The situation is already charged with apparent impossibility. Lazarus has been dead for four days, a period that, according to the Jewish custom described in the book, placed him beyond any ordinary hope of returning from the dead. Jesus’ deliberate delay therefore frames the scene as a test of what people do when the desired answer does not come quickly. The dead man’s condition represents more than bereavement: it becomes an image of dreams that seem beyond recovery.

Mary’s Withdrawal

When Martha hears that Jesus is coming, she immediately leaves to meet Him, but Mary remains still in the house. The contrast gives apathy its narrative form. Mary is portrayed as deeply upset because Jesus had seemed to ignore the request for help, and her failure to go out is understood as evidence that she had stopped caring or had stopped actively seeking the answer. Her posture does not resolve the crisis; it confines her within what the book calls a “house mentality,” a state in which disappointment becomes a reason to remain inactive.

This withdrawal is not presented as mere quietness or grief. It is a spiritual decision made under pressure: rather than continuing to pursue God without understanding what is happening, Mary allows the delay to weaken her pursuit. The episode thus distinguishes between pain that still moves toward God and discouragement that turns away from Him. Apathy begins when unanswered prayer is treated as proof that further seeking is pointless.

The Alternative to Apathy

The book presents continued pursuit as the necessary alternative. When the Lord appears not to be listening to a dream, or when events look unlike the hoped-for outcome, believers are urged to leave the house mentality and seek Him where He may be found. Martha’s movement toward Jesus supplies the immediate contrast to Mary’s stillness: the story does not say that Martha already understands the outcome, only that she goes to meet Him despite the circumstances.

The Lazarus narrative ultimately refuses to let delay define possibility. Jesus waits until the situation appears irretrievable, then raises a man who has been dead four days, demonstrating power over death and foreshadowing His own resurrection. In that setting, apathy is exposed as a premature conclusion. What appears finished may still be restored, so withdrawal can cause a person to abandon hope just before the decisive intervention.

Spiritual and Narrative Significance

Apathy belongs to the book’s larger account of “dead dreams coming to life again.” It is one of the attitudes that can prevent people from remaining engaged with God during the interval between promise and fulfillment. The danger lies not only in sadness but in the quiet conversion of sadness into inactivity: the person stops coming, stops asking, and stops expecting.

Mary’s stillness also prepares the next stage of the episode, in which she eventually encounters Jesus and expresses her disappointment that Lazarus would not have died had He been present. Her withdrawal and her later complaint are treated as related responses to the same delay. Instead of maintaining pursuit while lacking an explanation, she first retreats and then assigns responsibility for the loss. The narrative therefore places apathy within a chain of discouraged reactions: apparent neglect can lead to withdrawal, and withdrawal can harden into blame.

Apathy’s decisive opposite is persistent faith. The book does not deny the legitimacy of grief or confusion; it warns against allowing either to become a settled refusal to seek God. Mary’s position in the house represents the closed circle of disappointment, while the movement toward Jesus represents the possibility that hope can still meet the seemingly impossible situation outside it.