Repeated foster-family placements
I'd Like to Apologize to Every Teacher I Ever HadRepeated foster-family placements leave Alex’s home life uncertain even as school, summer camp, and a continuing relationship with Tony Danza offer moments of stability. His path from separation from his sister to a promising placement in Bucks County and then back to Philadelphia shows both the possibilities and limits of support: each new arrangement can open a door, but none guarantees that he will feel at home.
Instability and Separation
Near the end of the school year, Alex’s home life has deteriorated, and he is moved to yet another foster home, separated from his sister. The account offers no details about the circumstances of that move, but its recurrence matters: Alex has already experienced multiple placements, and another relocation compounds the disruption. Danza responds by reaching out to people who might help, treating Alex’s immediate needs as part of the relationship he has developed with him.
The narrative also places this instability against Alex’s attachment to school. Danza observes that Alex seems more at home there than in the place others call home. That contrast gives the repeated moves a personal consequence beyond the change of address: school is a comparatively familiar place while his living arrangements remain unsettled.
Camp as a Temporary Respite
Kelly Gould, Danza’s assistant, secures Alex a free four-week stay at her family’s summer camp in the Poconos. The paperwork is completed before the school year ends, giving Alex a chance to spend the summer away from foster care. Danza asks him to send back a poem, a small request that reflects Alex’s interest in writing as well as the connection the two have established.
The camp becomes more than a short break. Alex meets a boy his age, and the two become close through their shared poetry: they write together, videotape their work, and post it on YouTube. When the boy’s parents visit, they grow fond of Alex and agree to become his foster parents. After camp, he moves into their home in Bucks County, outside Philadelphia, and in the fall enrolls in the school attended by his new foster brother. For a time, the new arrangement appears to offer a family connection and a school setting that can carry forward the sense of belonging he found at camp.
A Promising Placement Unravels
The placement does not hold. After a few months, Alex’s friendship with the boy deteriorates, and tensions arise within the family for reasons not limited to Alex. Danza learns of the difficulties and tries to help from a distance. Phone conversations leave him increasingly concerned: Alex misses Northeast High School, is no longer speaking to his friend, and sounds distressed.
Alex’s foster mother eventually tells Danza that she, Alex, and his social worker have agreed on another move. Alex will live with his twenty-three-year-old brother, who is married and has an apartment near Northeast High School. This decision brings him back to Philadelphia and to his old school, but it follows the failure of a placement that had initially seemed like a fairy-tale resolution. The change makes clear that a hopeful beginning, even one built on friendship and a welcoming family, cannot by itself secure a lasting home.
Return and Continuing Support
Alex later tells Danza that he is happy to be back at his old school. Danza, however, has difficulty restraining what he calls his adoption fantasy, especially when Alex expresses a wish to live with him. Rather than become Alex’s adoptive parent, Danza settles into the role of unofficial mentor. Alex finishes his junior year with a C average and has a new girlfriend; Danza is pleased by his excitement but also concerned about him.
Their connection continues through practical, limited forms of care. Danza and others persuade the Poconos camp to take Alex again the following summer, and Danza checks in with him every Sunday. These efforts do not resolve the uncertainty of Alex’s placements or give Danza control over his future. They instead mark the continuing relationship as both meaningful and bounded: Danza remains engaged in Alex’s life while recognizing that he can do only so much.


