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Rainer Maria Rilke

The Friend

Rainer Maria Rilke is presented as a poet whose writing offers enduring counsel about solitude, difficult work, sadness, and love, yet whose authority is no longer self-evident to the narrator’s students. His letters move between literary instruction and intimate address: first understood by the narrator as guidance for anyone seeking to write, they later become a source of unease, even as their language comforts both the narrator and Apollo when read aloud.

Identity and Literary Counsel

The narrator describes Letters to a Young Poet as a short book of ten letters, addressed to a student who had written to Rilke for advice when Rilke was twenty-seven. The letters make artistic practice inseparable from a way of living. They advise writers to distrust irony and criticism, attend to simple and humble things, undertake what is difficult because it is difficult, and love questions rather than demand answers. They also counsel against fleeing sadness or depression, which may be conditions necessary to the work, and place solitude at the center of a writer’s life. The narrator has read these instructions so often that they are known by heart.

One letter offers a vision of the Beauty and the Beast story in which what frightens a person may, at its deepest level, be vulnerable and in need of love. The narrator notes that this idea has circulated in quoted or paraphrased form, including in an epigraph to the film White God. Rilke’s literary counsel thus passes beyond the book itself, becoming a phrase and an image that readers encounter in other contexts. The narrator also recalls his definition of love as two solitudes that protect, border, and greet one another, a formulation whose suggestive balance between closeness and separateness will be challenged by the students’ responses.

Advice, Teaching, and Changing Reception

When the narrator first read the letters at roughly Rilke’s age when he wrote them, they felt addressed not only to their original recipient but to anyone who hoped to become a writer. That early experience made the book seem broadly welcoming: its advice could be taken as a personal invitation into a vocation. Years later, teaching it produces a sharper division between the narrator’s attachment and the students’ reading. They do not experience the letters as though Rilke were speaking directly to them. Instead, they accuse him of excluding them and reject the idea that writing is a religious calling demanding priest-like devotion. One student dismisses his definition of love as language disconnected from real life, where love actually happens.

The difference is not merely a matter of literary taste. The students’ papers carry an exasperated, hostile tone, while the narrator remembers the authority the letters once held for an earlier generation of readers. The narrator’s unease persists even while the writing seems more beautiful than before: aesthetic admiration does not resolve the widening gap between the book’s ideal of devotion and the students’ suspicion of that ideal. The remembered classroom history deepens the contrast. The narrator’s former teacher had assigned the letters alongside Rilke’s autobiographical novel, The Notebooks of Malte Laurids Brigge, roughly three-quarters of a century after the letters were written, and the narrator recalls having felt personally addressed by both the book and its counsel.

Private Relationships and Public Legend

The portrait complicates Rilke’s idealized language with an account of his relationships. He is described as a womanizer who loved women and felt that women were the people with whom he could speak, understand, and be himself, provided that he did not have to remain with them too long. Many women, the narrator observes, were willing to love, protect, and forgive him. The account sets this capacity for intimacy beside his inability to sustain particular family roles: he left his wife about a year after their marriage and could not be a father to his daughter.

That daughter, despite being neglected by Rilke, devoted her life to his work and memory. She later died by suicide at the age of seventy-one. Her life and death place a grave limit on any easy equation between beautiful writing and successful human care. The narrator also recounts a story told about Rilke’s fatal disease: that it began after he pricked his hand on a rose, a flower that obsessed him and served as a significant symbol in his work. The students groan at this account, and one cannot stop laughing. Their reaction exposes the distance between the poet’s carefully charged symbolism and their resistance to the mythic seriousness attached to it.

Dogs, Reading, and the Afterlife of the Work

Rilke’s writing enters the narrator’s immediate life through a reading aloud to Apollo. The narrator takes the book from a stack on the coffee table and reads for several pages. Apollo settles against the narrator’s legs and feet, rests his head on his paws, and looks up whenever a page is turned; his ears shift with the reader’s vocal inflections. The narrator contrasts this response with Apollo’s apparent lack of interest in music and his failure to be soothed by music or massage. Reading Rilke aloud seems to calm the dog, while the lyrical prose and Apollo’s warm weight also soothe the narrator.

The reading connects the book’s account of attention to small and humble things with a specific act of attention between human and animal. Apollo cannot be assumed to understand the words, but he responds to the voice, its changes in inflection, and the sustained presence of the reader. The passage does not resolve what the dog understands; instead, it makes the act of reading matter without requiring shared language. Rilke’s own attention to dogs reinforces this connection. The narrator recalls his encounter outside a café in Spain with an ugly, heavily pregnant stray whose imploring look seemed to him to reach beyond the solitary soul and into what could not be understood. He gave her the lump of sugar from his coffee and later described the gesture as like reading mass together. The narrator also notes that the mythic figure of Apollo recurs in Rilke’s work, bringing the poet’s literary world into unexpected proximity with the dog listening to his letters. As the roughly two-hour reading continues, Apollo falls asleep against the narrator; when he wakes, he seeks the narrator’s hand, still holding the book, and licks it. The work’s afterlife is therefore not only a matter of students accepting or rejecting its claims: it also persists as a voice shared in a room, offering a form of attention whose comfort is real even when its meaning remains uncertain.