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André and Mariano's intense argument

The Lying Life of Adults

Andrea and Mariano’s confrontation is a remembered family crisis in which a seemingly familiar argument turns into a violent break. For Giovanna, its decisive meaning lies in the collapse of the adults’ public explanations: the dispute appears to concern politics and intellectual work, but she and the other girls sense that intimate relationships lie underneath it.

Background and Setting

Andrea and Mariano had been friends since university and remained close for years. Mariano, a university history teacher and contributor to a Neapolitan journal, often visited Andrea’s home; the two men argued about politics, Marxism, economics, and other subjects in which Giovanna and her friends could not follow the details. Mariano’s loud complaints about enemies who obstructed their work added a more combative edge to these discussions, while his Neapolitan dialect profanity fascinated the girls, who were forbidden to use dialect or swear themselves.

The friendship existed within a family geography already marked by distance and strain. Andrea lived with his family apart from his paternal relatives, who occupied parts of Naples that seemed to Giovanna remote and difficult to reach. Years later, on a drive toward Pascone, Andrea described the neighborhood where he had grown up and the building where Vittoria still lived. These journeys and family encounters made the adults’ uneasy relations palpable to Giovanna well before the confrontation with Mariano.

The Argument and Its Break

The rupture occurred in Mariano’s apartment on Via Cimarosa. Angela later told Giovanna that what began as a discussion like the men’s customary debates—on politics, Marxism, the end of history, economics, and the state—became unexpectedly violent. Mariano ordered Andrea out and said he never wanted to see him again. Andrea, usually associated in Giovanna’s mind with patience, answered with the ugliest words in dialect.

Costanza could no longer bear the shouting and went out for air. Mariano turned his anger on her as well, insulting her and ordering her not to return. She slammed the door; when it sprang open again, Mariano kicked it shut. Andrea then opened it and ran after Costanza. The scene made the conflict impossible to contain within the men’s intellectual disagreements: their words and actions pulled their families into the break.

What the Children Understand

Angela and Ida were frightened, but the adults paid little attention to them. In the days that followed, the girls repeatedly discussed the argument by telephone, trying to understand why the subjects their fathers had debated for years had suddenly produced such hostility. Their account remains a child’s partial understanding, but the girls suspect that sex, not Marxism, was the real source of the crisis.

That suspicion is shaped by their sense that the adults’ sexuality is different from the youthful desire they had treated as amusing. The argument makes the parents’ bodies and intimate lives intrude upon the girls’ private imaginings, which Ida describes as contaminated by the men’s shouted words. Angela and Ida, who had been inclined to talk about Tonino and Corrado, grow sad and turn away from that kind of talk. Giovanna, who knows more about the families’ secret dealings, finds it harder to avoid the implications and eventually withdraws from the telephone confidences, afraid that one wrong word might open a way into the facts.

Consequences and Significance

After the confrontation, Mariano disappears from Andrea’s home on Via San Giacomo dei Capri. Giovanna consequently sees Angela and Ida less often, and Costanza also stops visiting Giovanna’s family. The rupture between the men thus rearranges the children’s friendships and removes familiar points of contact between the households.

The conflict also coincides with a deterioration in Giovanna’s home life. She sees her mother looking deeply unhappy and her father pale, distracted, and no longer absorbed in study as before. Giovanna responds by acting cheerful and presenting her father with school exercises, as though ordinary family routines could still command his attention. Lies and prayers become established parts of her daily life, helping her manage what she cannot bring herself to say openly. The confrontation matters not only as the end of a friendship but as the moment when the children’s inherited explanations of adult life give way to suspicion, silence, and a sense of family crisis.